The Do’s and Don’ts of Manifesting Language (what you should and shouldn’t say)

When it comes to manifesting what you want, the language you use is a hot topic! Some people insist that you use certain words and avoid others. Other people say the off-limits words are ok.

In this post (and the video above), I’m going to give you my take on what manifesting language does and doesn’t work so you can improve your manifesting chops and start calling in the life you know you deserve.

Let’s start with these big ones: I want, I wish, intention

Some people are insistent that you shouldn’t say “I want” because in its essence, you are describing what you are currently lacking, and lack energy never manifested anything but more lack…

They also say you should NEVER say “I wish.” It feels scary and bad to some people. It feels like and even stronger repellant for what you really do want. It’s like throwing spaghetti to the wall and waiting to see what sticks.

Here’s my take on it: I say both “I want” and “I wish.” I have a Moon “Wishing” practice that I do on certain phases of the Moon to create my life the glorious way that I envision it to be.

I don’t hesitate to use those words because I know what energy I put behind them. And I’m going to talk more about that in a minute, but first, let’s talk about desire.

Desire is the seed of anything you want to attract, create, or become.

Spirit loves and desires expansion. Spirit gave us the ability to reproduce (the ultimate creation), but what is a necessary ingredient in sex (the act required to reproduce) is desire. Desire is built in to us.

There are 2 ways to create.

The two ways to create are by desire or by “accident.”

Desire plants the seed and it pulls you forward in search of the right combination of things to create or to manifest what you want.

Sometimes we create by accident – like an accidental discovery. But if there’s no desire for the creation, it won’t stick.

For instance, you might have heard someone call something “a happy accident” which recalls the desire we already have – ‘oh yes, this will work wonderfully for…’

Or how about this: discovering new stars? The person who discovers a new star may be studying something else when they see this new star by chance. But because the desire is there to discover the unknown, the new star gets recognized and pursued.

The difference between a wish and… a wish

good and bad manifesting languageYou can make different kinds of wishes and this is where the energy behind the words you’re using comes into play.

There’s a wish, a desire. And there’s a wish that’s a whining, complaining lack of something. Same word, two totally different meanings and energies.

For example, when I was younger, I wanted to buy a new car — a Saturn SC1 (they were so cool back then!!). It was the first car I was buying for myself and by myself.

But I couldn’t get financed.

So, the people at the dealership told me what I would need to do in order to get approved for financing. I wanted that car so badly that I was determined to make it happen.

I kept that car in the front of my mind. I kept wanting it and wishing for it. And I did the work the dealership told me I would need to do to get financed. Three months later, I went back and bought the car.

Had I whined about being turned down for financing… had I felt sorry for myself… had I blamed my circumstances or something else for not getting financed, I would have never manifested my new car no matter how badly I had wished for it.

So, understand that the energy behind your words have a profound effect on your ability to manifest what you want in your life.

The Guidelines

Here are some guidelines to help you keep your manifesting energy positive and strong so that the language that you’re comfortable with will work for you.

1) Keep your language and your thoughts positive. Don’t dwell on what’s going wrong. When something is wrong, deal with it, but then counter it with positive language and thoughts.

2) Avoid the language that doesn’t work. This includes:

A) Trying to manifest for someone else. You can’t control someone else’s language or thoughts. It’s THEIR thoughts that create their life so you can’t manifest something for them. It won’t work for you to wish for me to have a million dollars if I only think about lack. (that would be nice, but it doesn’t work)

B) Trying to manifest a should. Stay outta the “shoulds” and go with what feels right for you. You can (and will) manifest a “should” but be careful what you wish for. If a “should” was something that you really wanted, then you would call it a “want”, not a “should.”

C) Trying to wish in the negative. This sounds counterintuitive, but I don’t mean you’re trying to manifest something negative to you. I mean, watch how you try to release something away from you. Don’t say ‘I don’t want (any more junk mail)’ or ‘I want less (bills)’ for example. Use positive words and grammar to describe what you DO want.

So whatever you want to manifest, attract, or create in your life, you can do it and you can use the manifesting language that feels right to you as long as you have positive energy and meaning behind it!

What’s your best tip for manifesting what you want? Share with us in the comments below so we can try it!