Have you ever been in a really bad mood and you just couldn’t shake it? You tried everything you could think of and still no luck?
Being a teacher as I am and teaching the things I do, I like to think I have a few tricks up my sleeve, a few tactics for making anything I want happen. And that includes techniques to get myself out of a bad mood.
But there are times, try as I might, repeating all the affirmations I can think of, smiling as big and goofy as I can manage, writing myself love notes galore, that I just can’t get out of my bad mood. And it ticks me off!
I’m a spiritual teacher for crying out loud; I should be able to whip a bad mood in the tail in no time flat. I shouldn’t even get into them to begin with (ok, that’s another blog post in and of itself)…
But, alas, I, too, am human and such awful things as bad moods do happen to me too. :)
The cool thing is that I finally figured out the fastest way out of a bad mood and it’s so simple, I can’t believe it took me so long to figure out. So, to save you the trouble of figuring out yourself (or maybe you already have – you could have clued me in on your secret!!), I’m going to fill you in.
The fastest way to get out of a bad mood is not to do anything about it. To surrender to it. To allow it to be. To give it permission to be there and then go on about your business.
It’s that easy.
I remember when I discovered this phenomenon. I had been in a bad mood for days. I was angry, crabby, depressed. I don’t even remember why I was feeling that way. But I was doing every affirmation and visualization I could think of. I was reading my wall of encouragement. I was trying to rationalize my way out of it. I was telling myself it would be ok – it always was ok so what was I so upset about?
I was all up in my head and was fighting that bad mood as hard as I could… and I was losing. I finally got fed up and said (shouted, really, including a few curse words, I’m sure) to myself:
‘Ok, I give up. I’m in a bad mood and that’s where I am right now so I’m just going to be in a bad mood!‘
And then I forgot about it and went on about my business.
And, I kid you not, within 15 minutes I was feeling better. When I realized what had happened, I thought ‘Wow. That was fast!‘ and it was!
So, what happened? Well, I had been in my head fighting to push down the emotions I was feeling because they didn’t feel good. But pushing them down didn’t work because
(1) they were stronger than my ability to push down and
(2) when I did get them pushed down, something would immediately trigger them to come back up. I wasn’t open so they had no escape route.
The trick is to stop fighting whatever it is you’re feeling and just allow it to be. Surrender to feeling it. It’s ok to do that. When you surrender to it, acknowledge it, give it permission to be, and then forget about it, you’ll find that it suddenly has an escape route where it can go and fizzle away.
I use this technique now whenever I feel a bad mood or painful emotion stirring up inside of me. I just allow it and keep my heart open. No point in putting up a road block. Give your feelings a free and open highway to travel and give them the ability to go by just allowing. And just for full transparency here: it still takes me a little time sometimes to realize that I’m fighting a bad mood or an emotion because it’s such a built-in habit. But once I realize it, I immediately stop fighting and give myself permission to be where I am, then go about my business.
And it works every time.
If you’ve never given yourself permission to do this and you need it, I give you permission now. Resistance is futile. Try it and let me know how it works for you.
Do you have any sure-fire ways to get yourself out of a bad mood? We’d love to know! Let us know in the comments your tried and true methods for boosting your mood.